I have always had the gift of gab, and I’m a tall man. These are other natural weapons that I use, and they’ve helped me out of a several sketchy situations. Sometimes I’ve had to speak in a very aggressive tone and other times I’ve used a kinder tone. It always depends on the environment: where I am and who I’m dealing with. From years on the street and being a bouncer in a rough nightclub, I’ve learned that developing good communication skills improves in daily life.

There are many books and seminars on communication. Your local Toastmasters group is a great place to gain confidence in public speaking and in private conversations as well, particularly with strangers.

Everyone has unique and special qualities and abilities that they can develop and add to their self defense arsenal.. Make a list of personal qualities that you possess, and how you can use them to your advantage for self-defense. For me, it’s my height and ability to talk.

Remember: criminals seek easy targets, and watch for people who seem as though they will give in easily. The more confidence you exude, the less chance that you will be perceived as a victim.